Updated: Jun 23, 2019
“Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows. It's a very mean and nasty place and I don't care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't about how hard ya hit. It's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done!” –Rocky Balboa
As a weightlifter, athlete, or fitnesser you are the sum of all of your parts. All of your efforts and how you act all of the time makes you who you are.
Consistency is key.
Just like in Rocky—nothing is going to go perfectly as planned. You have to adjust and keep moving forward.
The mistake people make—they stop moving, they take a few days off here or there and try to jump right back into training with a great effort—only to have the next 3 days of training fall apart because of “life”.
The total of this effort does not lead to success.
If you back down when adversity hits or when “life happens” you are not really the person you thought, you were. In these moments you are tested, and true character is revealed.
The excuse “life got in the way” is such bullshit. I have multiple business, two kids, a dog, an auto-immune disease and a torn pec. My only choice everyday is to keep putting in work.
Somehow some way make it happen. And guess what—there are people who have it way worse than I, who find a way to train consistently.
Is my training perfect—no, am I where I want to be physically, no, but life isn’t about to keep me down. Most importantly I feel fulfilled by my actions, both work and leisure.
Adversity Shapes Us
No matter the pursuit, athletic, personal, or professional you are the sum of your actions, not just one action. Anyone can bounce back once from adversity—but rarely does adversity happen once.
Most of the times the adversity we face is out of our control. People tend to focus on what they can’t control versus what they can control. When you focus on things that are out of your control you stall. Paralysis is dangerous.
So ask yourself about these things.
Of the circumstances surrounding you what can you control? For me; I can control when I wake up, and that is the most consistent variable I can control.
When you have to opportunity to control your circumstances; you must take control.
So guess what— if I have a day of meetings—I get up at 4:30am to exercise. If I want to read more, but get distracted when it is not quiet—I wake up at 4:30am and read. Have emails to get out to the staff—you got it 4:30am. Because it is the only time of the day I have total control.
And you know what—most days I wake up at 4:30 and get cracking. Sure there are days I sleep in until 6am. But I like the the discipline that gives me the freedom to pursue my passion. (check out Code Man’s last post)
Adversity has shaped me. I am now a much more disciplined person with my sleep routine.
So back to your situation and your life. Start asking yourself what do I control?
I bet you can control more than you think. For an added bonus learn to accept what you can’t change.
Start asking more questions.
Do you have the discipline to eat right?
Do you have the discipline to participate in some sort of recovery daily?
Do you have the discipline to adhere to your coach’s program?
Do you actively try to change what the coach is asking you to change?
Do you consistently ask your coach questions so that you are both on the same page?
Do you skip training?
Do you commit to your 2-a-day schedule?
If you can only train 1x a day are you 100% present at training?
Are you checking your phone during training?
Are you cherry picking your favorite exercises?
Are you meal prepping nourishing foods to fuel your body?
Do you take supplements where you need to?
You are the totality of these actions.
See the reality of it is—once you start laying it out you control almost all of these things. You may think you have no say in your schedule or your intensity—but it is how you are choosing to approach your training that is killing your goals.
Take shit serious and you will get the result you want. Otherwise you are going to make excuses about how life got in the way of your pursuit.